It was one of those moments you may see portrayed on hallmark. It’s a story as true as it may seem cliche. I had stood up to ask someone, anyone, to dance. No, I wasn’t desperate. Though I didn’t have a plus one myself, I was at a social dance that featured big band tunes. Before I go on, I’ll preface a bit to help lend context.
Before my freshman year of college, I had developed an interest for learning how to swing dance. If you’ve never tried it or seen it, look it up! It’s a lot of fun!
And no, it’s not all acrobats, those are aerial steps…fun! but not necessary…alright, moving on…
Well, it just so happened that, when I was looking for a pastime, I came across an evening group class for Swing Dancing! Sweet! So I signed up, made every class, and I was catching on really quick. As a matter of fact, so quick, I suppose, that the outgoing teacher who was leaving the next semester, decided to hand down the class to me and a fellow classmate. Well, we knew that as far as we had come, there was a lot more to learn. That’s around the time I heard about Southern Fried Swing from my teaching partner.” A whole weekend of swing dance workshops and a vintage dance? Awesome!”
Before I go on, I have to say that it is pretty incredible how God orchestrates our circumstances and no, I don’t believe in coincidence, mere chance.
So, there I was, looking to invite someone to dance the song. That’s when I looked up and saw her from the other side of the room. A small crowd dispersed to unveil, undoubtedly, the most beautiful woman at the dance. Yes, perhaps I remember it more dramatically than what had occurred, but it’s my favorite version and my heart raced none the less. She was talking and laughing with a group of friends. She wore a vintage red dress, with lips to match and curls in her hair. It was complete infatuation at first sight, but you know the one thing I did not do that night? Ask her to dance! I know, I’m a wimp. I was so nervous, I didn’t know how to approach her. Timidness aside, it was a night I’ll never forget. The next day went even better though! We both showed up to the same morning class without a partner. And although most of these classes rotate partners, we got to be paired for the majority of the class. It’s even where we had our first picture taken together…
Well, that night there was a smaller dance at a studio that we both showed up at AND… you guessed it… I asked her to dance! We maybe danced half the night and talked the rest. It was another unforgettable night. Driving back to Fayetteville I knew there was something about her. I had even thought, “I could marry someone like that.”
However, and please forgive me all of you romantics, it was months from then when we contacted each other again. That’s a whole other story. But I will say, it was a day after praying for direction and help in all of my relationships, friends, family, and, God willing, a bride, that I had received a message from this lady asking if I was ever going to come to another swing dance again. That lady was my now bride of a little more than 4 years, Vanessa. And as they say, the rest is history. It wasn’t long after her message that we had our first date and no longer than that I decided that this was the woman I wanted to love for the rest of my life.
If you’re a human being, you understand how challenging life can be. And if you’re a married human being, you can understand the unique challenges that marriage can bear, but I have to say (and I hope you would agree) it is so worth it! Marriage never worked out because 2 people “fell in love.” Marriage works because 2 people decide to love and with the help of God we have had 4 beautiful years together and, God willing by His grace, we’ll have many more!
Well, that’s how it started. I could share more, but to spare exhaustion I’ll leave it there. That’s my side of the story and I’m stick’n to it!