Just a few days ago Brett and I celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary! I can’t believe how time has passed so quickly. Yet, looking back on the past 8 years, so much has happened and changed in that amount of time!
And with all the ups and downs that we have been through together, this relationship has truly been a taste of the real, unconditional love that Jesus has for us. My husband has loved me through so much. And I him. And even knowing the deepest parts of each other and the “big” secrets, we have been committed to each other with a real love that cannot be broken.
When you first meet someone, you really only see the best part of them. The part they are trying to show off to “win you over.” The part that they want you to like the most that will be what causes you to then love that person. All the romantic dates and putting your best foot forward to win the affection of the other. As time goes on, it seems that a lot of the romantic effort starts to dissipate and you wonder what has happened to the relationship.
After 8 years of marriage, something I have come to realize. It’s not that the love for the other has slowed down or stopped, it’s just the way they show love has changed. Love, real love, is more than the flowers, chocolates, or extravagantly planned date nights. Real love shows the other on a day to day basis that you mean the world to them. That they will do anything to show they care.
Real love is in the mundane day to day life.
Real love is in the way they help with the kids.
Real love is in the way he shows he cares for you.
Real love is so much more than a butterfly feeling.
I am more and more in love with my husband every day. Especially the more I notice and realize how romance has changed for us. Finding the love in the little things. It is a special gift to be opened to these acts of love. Our marriage is by no means perfect, but we grow closer every day.
The true definition of love is more than what is on the outside. It is what is in the heart. It is deeper than skin deep. The true definition of real love…
“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
What may be some ways your spouse shows you love everyday that may not be as obvious? Let’s start finding the romance in our marriages in the small things. Let’s start showing romance to our spouse everyday in the small things. Our marriages are worth it.