The Love of My Life

There are times when I think back at all the major decisions I have made through the years and think to myself, “I wonder what would have happened or what my life would have been like if I had done this or that instead?” “Would I be married to the same guy?” “Would I be living where I am living?” “What aspects of my life might be different had I not taken the roads I took in life?” 

The biggest blessing of the all choices through the years is that they lead me to meeting and marrying my husband. And this post is to some brag a little bit about how great of a man he is to me and those around him. I couldn’t me more lucky of a girl if I had planned this life myself. 

Yesterday my husband a lunch meeting with one his professors at his university he is attending to get his master’s degree. This meeting was only supposed to be about 30min long but after him being gone for about 2.5 hrs I decided to call him to make sure he wasn’t in a car wreck or something like that. (Over-dramatic, I know. But better to be safe than sorry.) 

When he answered, he informed me that he was on his way home but was stopping at Wendy’s first. Slightly confused, since the meeting with his professor was a lunch meeting, he said that he had stopped and talked to a guy on his way home that needed a meal so he wanted to make sure the guy got some food and was able to pray with him. When I got off the phone, I couldn’t help but smile. How could I be so blessed to have such a sensitive guy as my husband. 


A little later, all of a sudden the door bell rang. I was confused because I wasn’t expecting anyone that day. I went and opened the door and there my husband was standing with a dozen roses, a card, and a bottle of sparkling grape juice. I was speechless. He said, “Since we are celebrating Valentine’s Day a day early, I wanted to do it right.” And he also had single rose for our daughter. She is just shy of two months old and her daddy is already showing her how a lady should be treated. Watching my husband be a daddy makes fall in love with him more and more everyday. 


We ended our evening with a dinner date while my parents watched our daughter. And it was a great night. 

God has truly answered my prayers through the years beyond what I even imaged with my amazing husband and precious little girl. The journey to get here, to this place has not been anything that I would have planned or asked for but I would not be in the place without this journey. My husband has shown me recently what it really means to love the all of God’s people, no matter where they are at in life. I have always done that but watching him has really opened my eyes to how much more I can do better in that area. And yet he still loves his little family and shows us in his own ways and we are just as loved and cared for as the hungry man he meets on the street. 

I love him so much and feel so blessed and honored to be his wife! 

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Love Another Day

Through the years of trying to grow our family, my husband and I have been very deliberate about still growing together as a couple. Doing Bible studies together, going on dates together, and just being in each other’s company whenever we could. A lot of times whenever couples go through infertility, they start to feel alone. All of their focus is so much on trying to have a family that they start to fade away from each other. Fading away so much so that their relationship, by the time they have their child, is only barley hanging on but by a thread. 

That is something I really don’t want to happen to you or anything anybody for that matter. The desire to start a family is real. The longing never really ever goes away. However, your spouse is a real person too. With real feelings. Real emotions. Real needs. That must not be forgotten either. 

It’s ok to just take it one day at a time. It’s ok to not feel like you have it altogether. But allow your spouse the knowledge of knowing that you are there for them as well. Bring them in on what you are feeling and ask them how they are doing too. Remember, it takes two to make a marriage work and two to have a family. Raising a family was not meant to be done alone. Although people do it all the time, it was not the way God intended it to be done. 

Don’t get me wrong, marriage is hard work. And by no means am I an expert at it. My husband and I have good days and bad just like everyone else. I just try not to let the bad days get in the way of the good days. Letting the good days overshadow and allow the bad days to seem like they are a distant memory. My husband brings me such joy and laughter everyday. He knows how to make me feel loved and cherished and that is why even on bad days I can still find the good in them. 

Go on dates. Do simple chores together. Take a weekend and get out of the house. Run errands together. All of these things can bring you closer and closer together even just doing the mundane day to day things. I know, I love it when we get to go grocery shopping together or even laundry together. We have some of our best conversations over a pile of laundry just folding away and talking about our day and how we are doing. (I know, so romantic!) 

Just remember, you are both going through the journey to a family together. You both just might be showing it differently. Be aware of that and just keeping loving each other through the hard days. Love is a choice and not a feeling. If your spouse is feeling down then there is a reason for that and just love them more those days. I am praying for you, your infertility journey, and your marriage. Don’t give up hope! Just love another day! 

If you need a few date ideas, check out my post “Great Night for a Date Night” for a few fun activities to do together. 

This is Life, This is Love

On the 22nd of June, it was my birthday. And let’s just say that sometimes we make plans and think everything is going to go just perfect! And then…

They don’t. Life just, happens. 

I had thought of these plans and made sure I was able to give away my shift for that day so I could have the day off. I ended up doing it on the 23rd instead because Brett was already supposed to have off that day and then we could spend the whole day together. But then…

We can’t. Life just, happens.

When Brett rechecked his schedule at the beginning of this week. He got scheduled to work that day. I was so upset. I had already given that day away to work myself so now we were back to the normal, I finally have a day off and you have to work but he doesn’t senario that has now become our life. Until something better than I could have planned myself ends up coming into play. 


A coworker of mine found out that my husband got scheduled on his day off and that I then had no one to hang out with during the day and was able to come and hang out with me for the day at Hollywood Studios! It turned into being a great day getting to know a new friend. After Brett got off work, he was able to meet us for a bit at the park and then my new friend had somewhere to be that evening so we parted ways. From there…

Disaster. Life just, happens.

We get to the parking lot and Brett says, “Please don’t be upset, but I forgot to get your birthday gift.” And if I am going to be honest, I was more than a little upset. Gifts is one of my top love languages and the fact that he forgot the gift for my birthday night together, well I was upset, no matter how hard I tried not to be. But we moved on. 

From there we went to Disney Springs for dinner to eat at one of my favorite sandwich places. That was good and nothing went wrong there. Just yummy food and great company with the hubby! 

After dinner was the one thing I was actually looking forward to the whole day. There was a comedian that performs a free show at one of the resorts on Wednesday through Sunday nights. All of which I am usually working. So I was super excited the day I took off was a night he was supposed to be there. There is a 20 min river cruise that goes from Disney Springs to the resort that was nice and relaxing. 

On the River Cruise


Well, we get there and he wasn’t there that night. He was off for this weekend. I was so crushed. The whole reason I took off when I did and he wasn’t there. I didn’t know what to do after that. Brett had found out before we got there that there was carriage rides and so he took me over to go and do that. And…you guessed it…they were booked up for the night. With all of this, I just wanted to go home, so we did. 

My night that I had waited for, for over a week had turned into what I thought was just the worst night ever. Great day but not a fun night. But then…

The unexpected. Love just, happens! 

The following day, I was scheduled for a day shift and Brett had off. He surprised me that morning and told me he would take me to and from work so I didn’t have to drive that day. Such a gentleman. When he picked me up that afternoon, and we arrived home, there was a meal of homemade French dip sandwiches, gifts all wrapped nice and neat on the counter, and the table set for two. 

He felt bad about the fact that the main thing that I was looking forward to the night before hadn’t happened. So he put together a dinner (with some help form my mom) and bought a DVD of one our favorite comedians and we had a comedy night at the house just us! That night was so much better than I could have planned by myself! All that I was upset about the day before all seemed so small and insignificant after coming home to that. I am truly blessed with such a caring and loving husband that really does care about my feelings. 

All this was a reminder of something. Something that is hard to remember sometimes. We make plans for a lot of things both big and small in life. Thinking that the world will come to an end if it doesn’t. But what does happen is better than what we origanlly planned. For instance, staring our family. I still have not learned why God made as long as we did or go through all that we did to get where we are ( and I may not ever learn), but I do know that God’s timing is always perfect and His plans are better than our own. Just like my husband’s planned night in was better than what I had planned out the night before. 

This is life, this is love! 

my gifts from my hubby!

Great Night For a Date Night!

As I’ve stated in my post about how my husband and I met, I am going to be putting together blog posts about marriage as well as the stories of our journey through infertility. 

What is a better way to help with your marriage than spending time together?! I thought for my first post for this section it would be a great idea to just start with some great date ideas! With the help of some of some ladies that commented on a post that I made on my Facebook Page I have compiled a list of both big and small things you can do with your spouse to spend some time together! Enjoy!

Hiking

This is a great way to spend some alone time, and get active as well! Why not it really make it romantic and make it either a sunrise or a sunset hike to a lookout point? Pack a picnic lunch and enjoy the view!

Coloring

Bring out the kid again and color together! This is a very relaxing and enjoyable pass time. If you have kids, this is something that everyone can sit down and do together. 

Reading out loud to each other

Whether it’s a novel, a devotional, or anything else you both have interest in, reading together is just a fun way to connect. And, hey, maybe each pick a charecter and act it out as you go! 🙂

Thrifting

This is a very inexpensive date. My husband and I find a local thrift store and give each other a budget of say $5 and we set off to see who can find the most unique and out there item we can find and see who found the best! Haha

Take a dance class together

Taking a partner dance class is a great way to spend time together. It also is about a solid hour of holding your spouse, real close! 😉 (What other reason do you need?) 

Dressing up for a fast food date

Getting all dressed up is always fun, especially for us girls. So why not on a budget, get dressed up and go to a fast food place with a table cloth and make your own “fancy dinner date”!

Investing in a Fire 

This was such a good idea! For those nights you don’t have time to actually go out somewhere, lighting a fire in the back yard and sitting out talking to your spouse under the stars. This also gets you outside so that all the distractions of housework, etc. are not around you and you can focus on genuine conversation with each other! 

Vacation no destination 

Now this is something that could done over a weekend or just for a day. But set out in the car and every time you hit an intersection flip a coin. Heads is right, tails is left. And just keep driving until dinner time and see what’s around and eat there for dinner. Really fun to be spontaneous together! 

I hope this list helps spark some ideas of different ways to spend time with your spouse and build your relationship together. What is your favorite activity you do with your spouse? Comment below and share your ideas! 

The Best Love Story Ever Told

 

(This picture was about a month after we started dating. 😍)

 
…at least to me it is. 💞

Let me just start by saying that any journey to becoming parents, especially if you have trouble conceiving, cannot be traveled without a healthy and strong marriage. My plan for this section of the blog, “True Love”, is to put in marriage tips, date ideas and much more to help keep the fire burning in our marriages while getting through this challenging time. And, maybe fall in love with your spouse all over again! But first, our love story on how we met! (Because it’s so much fun to tell 😜)

All growing up through high school and almost all of college I never went out on a single date with anyone. I barely even had guy friends. (Growing up going to a ballet studio 5 days a week might have had something to do with that…hmm) Closer to the end of my time in college, I had gone out on about two first dates that were set up by friends that were, well, let’s just say those two guys were better off finding other girls that were better suited for their personality. 

After college, I moved to Arkansas and started teaching dance at a local studio down there. Moving there Summer of 2009. That following September, I had attended a weekend event for swing dancers (the kind of dancing set to old big band music of the 40s. If you have never tried it you should!) where I went to a workshop class. There, I was partnered with this guy that had also showed up without a partner to the class. He was a pretty cute red head and I was kinda distracted by his looks and personality. It was kinda hard to pay attention to the class! 😉 Found out his name was, you guessed it, Brett. 

When the weekend of classes and dances was over, we went our separate ways and went on with life. I couldn’t get my mind off of this cute red head though. Always wanting to know what he was up to and if he was thinking of me at all. (I was a little twitterpated by him if you couldn’t tell.) Me being stubborn and old fashion, I wasn’t going to reach out to him. He was the guy so he needed to make the first move, by golly! And, he did! At the end of December, yes 3 long months later, he finally contacted me through Facebook. We hit it off right away. The downfall, he lived an hour away. But he was willing to drive an hour to meet with me for dinner and take a dance class together. I was so excited about the chance to get to see him again! 

The night went exactly how I had hoped. The ease of talking to him, and the fun we had at the class just topped off everything! I just knew from then on that this was meant to be, that this was the start of what was going to be the best adventure I would ever be on! And it is!